Haven’t written as much as I should have this week – not met my goals – on writing that is. Too much researching. I never realized how much research is involved in this writing process. It’s not just the writing and making sure your grammar and punctuation is correct but also researching the topic, faster ways to publish, articles on book trailers, etc., etc., etc.
If you’ve read my first book – Crossing the Line – you know it deals with a woman whose husband is a narcissist. Now, she doesn’t know that for sure, but from the research she has done it sure looks that way to her. Of course, he’s in denial and continues his game of master and deceit thinking she won’t notice a thing. Woman are pretty smart though – and that comes from me doing a lot of research.
Narcissist 1.) A person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish. 2.) Self-admiration: excessive self-admiration and self-centeredness.
Here are a few concerns of mine concerning the subject of narcissism in Crossing The Line:
1.)How stupid does Jim really think his wife, Helena is? Surely he knows she can’t believe all those excuses he tells her night after night? – A narcissist thinks he is always right though.
2.)How stupid does he think his lover, lw (Lori Walters), is? And really, come on lw! Wise up. I wonder that too! Statistics say that only about 3% of men leave their wives for the woman they are having an affair with and then that usually falls apart too. It looks as though lw is pretty sure she is in that 3% range! – A narcissist has entitlement feelings. Everything is his – even another woman in this case.
3.)Jim can only get away with it for so long before all hell breaks loose! – A narcissist doesn’t take criticism well and Jim refuses to see any thing wrong in what he is doing.
4.) Jim tries to put all the blame for what is wrong with their marriage on Helena when she finally puts her foot down!(There’s that backbone! Way to go girl!) – A narcissist always puts the blame on others. There is always a scapegoat.
That’s probably all I should say here on the subject. I don’t want to give away all the exciting occurrences in the book. It’s better if you read it yourself to find out what happens. In the sequel (What Line), – working on it now – you will learn of Jim’s side of the story. I’m having a hard time making Jim a good guy though. He’s been a baaaaaad boy! Give me some feedback please. Let’s have a vote. Who should win in this trilogy? Comments please. Should it be:
1.) Helena – The loving caring wife of Jim’s for more than thirty years, the mother to their three children, and grandmother of two.
2.)Jim – The narcissist, demanding, used to be loving, caring, and always there when she needed him husband to Helena, also father of three and grandfather of two.
3.)Lori Walters (lw) The “other woman” – Now lw should probably not factor into this situation at all, but after all, where would the story be without her?! I’d hate to call her the leading lady though!
Help me decide where this story is going because I never know from one chapter to the next what is going to arise! I think I may get too involved while writing this series. I used to do the same thing when I watched soap opera’s – a long, long, long time ago! Remember those? It was almost as if they were real people – people you were in contact with every day. That is probably a terrible thing to admit! lol!
The sad thing is, they may all lose in this escapade. I have to remember there are also three grown children and two grandchildren involved in the outcome. Feel free to post what you think under comments, or on Crossing The Line’s Facebook page and share with others. I’ll post the top three comments two weeks from today on my blog and on Facebook. That will give those of you who haven’t read the book time to do so and those that have probably already have their opinion formed. Thanks in advance for your research on this.