The answer you ask? A mother should probably take advantage of the situation and not complain about it.
I don’t know why I am sad about Andrew not needing me to do his laundry for him anymore.
Maybe because he is the baby of the family – almost 21, but still the baby! I’ve been doing laundry for almost 39 years for my children and you would think I would be happy its finally over.
Maybe its the control factor in me. I think I can do it better than he can and want to make sure it gets done right.
Maybe I have nothing else to do – oh yes I do – plenty!
Maybe its the need to be needed.
I’ve decided I need to let go of a few things such as:
- Not worry about him keeping up in his classes (I don’t even know what classes he’s taking this semester!) His grades are good.
- Let him make his own bedtime (But 4:00am is a little late , don’t you think?)
- Let him eat what he wants (fast food and very few vegetables never killed a college student and I know he gets plenty of exercise to work off those calories!)
- Figure out by himself how to put air in his tires (he can always purchase another cap for his stem after it looses air again!)
- Let him do his own laundry (if he runs out of clean underwear he can always purchase more and wearing the same pair of pair of pants more than one-two-three times means less laundry for him to do anyway!)
Sometimes I do get those calls of woe – “I don’t know why I got that parking ticket. I was parked legally!”
Sometimes I get barked at because I remind him more than once to put his rent check in the slot on the office door by tomorrow or it will be late.
Sometimes I get a text of urgency – “I need a new inhaler bad.” Then I jump and transfer prescriptions to a pharmacy where he is at the moment, worried he may have an asthma attack and have no inhaler, (he never has) and after two or three days of coaxing he finally picks it up.
Sometimes when I ask if he has taken care of this or that I get a reply of “I will – I am – I’ve been busy and haven’t had time.”
Yes, he has procrastination in his blood. What can I say? He got that from me. I work better under pressure so I should understand he might too. It just drives me crazy though – there’s that control factor of mine again.
Like he said, “I’ve got it.”
I think he does and I’m happy he is becoming a responsible adult! 🙂 Now about that bank account I have to keep watch on – that’s still a little scary to let go!
I don’t think he reads all of these posts because you know he’s such a busy, busy guy. If he did he would probably be upset about me posting his picture and writing about him. 😉 Since I have no laundry to do I have time to write this for ‘What Will Be Will Be Wednesday’. Yay!