If that’s what you want here are four surefire ways to get the task accomplished!
- Believe in them. Believe in them so much that when there is that small glimmer of non-belief you still believe, ignoring your gut instinct. – Kids are sneaky. They know just the right words to say when questioned and all their friends back them up. And then…you are blindsided with some major catastrophe!
- Give them everything they want and serve it up on a platter. – Why not? You want them to have more than you did. You’ve got plenty of money – or you will until you decide to retire and then wonder where it all went. It went to the kids of course.
- Don’t make them pitch in and help around the house. – They deserve to have a childhood not cluttered up with endless chores. There will be time for all that later. They don’t need to know how to do laundry, clean toilets, or change flat tires. They’re going places and will be smarter and richer than you and besides, what else to you have to do with your time?
- Don’t hold them responsible for anything from school work to taking care of their own finances. – Step in and take the reins. They are too busy having fun to worry about school work or a part-time job. Their lives will be much easier at the time if you take control giving them an endless amount of money and free time. Of course your free time will be nil to none as you work two jobs to keep that supply ahead of the demand.
There you have it. Four easy steps and failure will be on the horizon. Of course you have failed too. The kids are grown, but not out of the house. Maybe they have even moved back in with you toting two babies on their hip and a deadbeat husband or wife. They know nothing about taking care of a family or how to save for a rainy day. Respect runs low from their friends to their employer – if they have one. They turn to you with an open hand as always and expect you to fill it.
This post idea came from something I heard on a TV show a few weeks ago. It was about depleting your own accounts to help take care of your children and then retirement comes up and there’s not much left and nowhere to turn. With H retiring in one year we have tightened our belts in hopes of a successful retirement run.
I tried not to do this with my children and now they are all self-sufficient, not needing my handouts. They have succeeded in life, gained respect from their peers, and hopefully do not follow those four rules above.
I’m sure I was weak at times and I still am. Andrew is still in college and it’s so hard to hand him over to the world. He does work part-time to help fund his account and pays for his summer classes. In this I have succeeded. Time to hand that account over to him to see what he does with it. Scary thought!