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3 TOP EXCUSES FOR NOT BEING THERE

3 TOP EXCUSES FOR NOT BEING THERE

Excuses or little white lies are made every day when the stars are not lining up in our favor to attend what we really don’t want to attend. As not-so-responsible adults, when we spew forth those excuses in front of, or for our children, we are only teaching them to carry on the tradition and be less responsible. 

To be part of a high school marching and concert band class, after-school rehearsals four days a week are rule-of-thumb with an occasional Saturday rehearsal thrown in for good measure. (pun intended) Kids don’t always want to be there. It’s hard work, hot during marching season, time consuming, and students, nor parents realize it’s important for a good performance. It can’t all get done in a forty-five minute class period five days a week if you want to be part of a superior band. 

  
Now remember H doesn’t have a one hundred and fifty or even a seventy-five piece band. Only around thirty and that includes the color guard. Everyone basically plays a solo  and when you’ve got one or two or three out of the equation, there’s a hole or two and missing instrumentation. 

 

Saturday rehearsal in preparation for state band festival - 3 missing

Saturday rehearsal in preparation for state band festival – 3 missing

 
H has heard many of these little white lies in the course of his teaching career. ‘The dog ate my homework’ doesn’t apply to band. The top three excuses he has heard, among many other questionable ones are listed below. 

  1. FAMILY OBLIGATIONS – Mitchell won’t be able to be at rehearsal tomorrow. We have a prior family obligation. 
  2. DOCTOR’S APPOINTMENTS – Sarah has a dental appointment this afternoon so she will not be attending rehearsal today. 
  3. TOO MUCH HOMEWORK – Billy was absent yesterday from after-school rehearsal because he had a lot of school work he had to get done. 

I could elaborate as to why these excuses aren’t feasible, but we will leave that for another post – WHY THESE 3 EXCUSES DON’T CUT IT. 

  
Bet your bottom dollar they will all show up early or on time for the end-of-the-year trip! 

A – Z Blogging Challenge  – the letter N – NOT

~Elle

WHEN IT’S OKAY TO LIE

WHEN IT’S OKAY TO LIE

We’ve all done this. Lie that is. Come on now – be honest. Don’t lie about it. In the course of our lives we have all had the opportunity and have probably taken advantage of that opportunity to tell a little-white-lie or two or three. Is that a bad thing? Maybe – maybe not. It depends.

I believe it’s okay to tell that little-white-lie so as not to hurt someone’s feelings. You know what I mean. When your very best friend asks if you like her new haircut, outfit, or the choice of restaurant she picked for the two of you to have lunch, your answer is quickly stated with a fake smile and “I love it!” All along  you are cringing at the thought of having to eat at that restaurant, seated across from the haircut from hell, in  the outfit that doesn’t fit! What is she thinking?

It’s even okay for your husband or significant other to say, “You look great!” when you know you have put on a few pounds in all the wrong places. This is a very safe little-white-lie. It makes you feel better and he doesn’t have to sleep on the couch!

So when is it not okay? Consider these points that I actually have heard second-hand from H.  So yes, I do know what I’m talking about.

  • It’s not okay to send an email to your child’s teacher saying Billy won’t be able to make that scheduled mandatory rehearsal tomorrow afternoon because he has other family obligations when Billy really has talked said parent into covering for him!
  • It’s not okay to tell your teacher you missed a performance because your Grandmother passed away – and she didn’t! Poor Grandma. 😦 (What ever happened to ‘The dog ate my homework’?)
  • It’s not okay to skip an afternoon  rehearsal because you were sick when you just left the class thirty minutes earlier with no signs of sickness, a smile on your face, and your girlfriend/boyfriend waiting in your car!
  • It’s not okay to send an email or text saying your child missed rehearsals last week because of sickness in the family when he really was goofing off with his friends!
  • It’s not okay to say, “We were out-of-town for that performance” when you child was really at home babysitting the younger kids for you!
  • It’s not okay to say you missed the performance because you didn’t have a ride when you never really tried to get one!
  • It’s not okay to say you didn’t know there was a rehearsal because you don’t get the emails! (Yes you do and it’s written on the board and talked about in every class.)

Is it really okay for parents to send out these messages to their children that it okay to lie? The majority of those ‘little-white-lies’ in the bullets up there were from kids. They had to learn from someone though and it’s usually from the parents. The first time you tell that little-white-lie is when your child takes it and runs with it – all the way through life!

Think about it next time you pick up the phone to call or text or open you computer to send that not-so-true email. Is this really what you want to teach your children? Is this the way to make them responsible adults? Will they even know what accountability is from your actions?

Okay, I’m done with my rant and I feel better. 😉 When was the last time you told that not-so-true little-white-lie?

~Elle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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